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Don’t skip a step.

Apparently, I skipped a step.

But I didn’t know that step was there.

Explaining that to a 16-year-old who has lost about 2,000 songs from her playlist did not ease the pain.

It happened the other day when I made the mistake of changing the e-mail associated with our iTunes account. When news came out last week that a billion Yahoo! accounts had been hacked, it occurred to me: “Hey, I still have a Yahoo! Account. And that’s what we use for iTunes. I should change that.”

But I skipped a step.

I found out that the music was gone when I got a very panicked text message from my daughter that read, “Because you switched e-mails all of my music is gone. Everything I downloaded from Apple Music is gone.”

I assured her it was not gone and we would find it. I then made a beeline to the Apple store. Because I was not sure we would find it. I just really, really hoped that we would. I noticed that my music was gone as well, but it was hardly the life-crushing defeat my daughter was suffering through, mainly because I don’t have every Broadway song ever recorded on my phone.

Once I got to the store, I was told it was about a three-hour wait. Another option, they said, was to set up a phone call. Perfect, I thought. That way, we can schedule it for when we were both at home and solve this problem together.

At 5:30, we got the call. I explained the problem to the person on the phone. She asked me about a setting here and a setting there. She was having trouble pinpointing a solution, and said she was going to transfer me to a supervisor. This isn’t good, I thought. “This will be great,” I said to my daughter. “The supervisor will fix everything!” My daughter was not buying my fake optimism.

The supervisor, Tracy, got on the phone and we went through checking more settings. She then asked, “Did you log out of your devices before changing the e-mails?”

“Uh, no…” I confessed to Tracy.

“Oh, no. You skipped a step.”

“But I didn’t know there was a step.”

It was apparently an important step.

I said, “I’m going to be one of those calls you share in the break room, aren’t I?” Tracy kindly said no. I don’t believe her, but it was nice of her to say.

I told Tracy that if she can find a solution to this, we can call Christmas shopping done, as this would be the best gift possible.

A few more trouble-shooting efforts. She had me change this setting and that setting. She told me I would need to restart my phone. I told her, “But I’m on the phone with you.”

“I’ll call you back in two minutes,” she said.

“You promise you’ll call?” I said.

Tracy promised.

Two minutes later, the phone rang. A few more settings adjustments. As my daughter paced nervously behind me, I noticed the pacing stopped and there was now jumping. And waving of arms. And a loud, screechy sound that I believe only a teenaged girl is capable of producing, and it only is produced when she sees all of her music repopulating on her phone.

I informed Tracy that it was working, and that she was now the Gibbons’ family’s favorite person on planet earth. She also helped me get my less extensive playlist back on my phone. As my songs began to appear, I said, “Hey, Tracy, since we’re best friends now, wanna hear the first few songs of the most diverse playlist going?”

“Uh, sure,” she said.

I have a wide range of musical likes. “OK, first five in order: R. Kelly, Lynyrd Skynyrd, AC/DC, Elton John and Adele.”

She asked me what R. Kelly song I had. Naturally, I told her it was Ignition (Remix) and gave her a quick sample in my inimitable singing style. I asked her if I was the first customer to sing R. Kelly to her over the phone. She assured me I was.

We began to say our goodbyes, and I again told Tracy that she was our hero. Songs may not seem like a big deal to some people, but to my daughter, it ranks slightly more important than oxygen. But slightly below not skipping a step.

Mike Gibbons was born and raised in Aiken, S.C. A graduate of the University of Alabama, he now lives in Mt. Pleasant. You can e-mail him at scmgibbons@gmail.com or follow him on Twitter @StandardMike.

 

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Scoot over

As a parent, there is really no more terrifying feeling than answering a call from one of your children and hearing wailing on the other end of the line.

I received one of these calls the other day from my 16-year-old daughter. I answered the call and heard what sounded like, “WARBLE GLOBBLE FRAMBLE!!!” followed by sobs.

“ALLIE!” I said, trying to get her to calm down. “WHAT IS GOING ON?”

She took a few deep breaths, and eventually translated “WARBLE GLOBBLE FRAMBLE!!!” into “I think I broke my foot.”

Well that’s not good.

She had been at school rehearsing for a play. During one of the dance scenes, she did a little jump move and came down weird. “I heard a pop,” she said. Also not good.

We got her home and I began to inspect the damage. My wife was out of town, and she is the in-house health care provider for most things. It’s not that I am against helping out my kids when they are hurt. It’s just that she is WAY better at it than I am. But I was going to have step up and fill that role, meaning I could not give my usual medical advice, which is, “Wow, that stinks. Hope it feels better soon!”

My daughter’s ankle and foot were starting to swell. I put some ice on it and told her to elevate it. This doctorin’ stuff ain’t so tough! She’d be on the mend in no time.

Yeah, not so much.

She couldn’t put any pressure on it, and she was in intense pain. By the next morning, her foot was turning a gnarly purple. Time for a real doctor.

I took her to get an x-ray. This was where it became REALLY fun to have dad at the doctor’s office with a teen daughter. As they were getting ready to take her back to x-ray her foot, the nurse began asking her a series of questions. She looked over at me and said, “OK, Dad, I now need to ask some, uh, personal questions.”

“I’ll step out of the room,” I said.

After a few minutes, the nurse poked her head out and said we were ready to have her foot looked at. I went over to help my daughter into the examination room. When it was just the two of us, we had this conversation:

ALLIE: Dad! They asked me if I was pregnant!

ME: Well, you better have said no.

ALLIE: DAD!

They x-rayed her foot, and fortunately found no break. The doctor said it was probably a sprain, but that if it continued hurting after a week or so, we may need to get an MRI on it to see if there was ligament damage.

They put a hard splint on her leg and wrapped it tightly. They then gave her some crutches. Have you have ever seen those videos of a baby horse trying to take its first steps, wobbling around all unsteady? Yeah, that’s how she looked trying to use the crutches.

I took her to school and checked her in, and the school assured her she had extra time to get between classes.

About an hour after dropping her off, I got a text from her: “It’s really hard to get around…” Having been on crutches a few times, I concur.

I went to a medical supply place and rented one of those scooter things where you rest your knee on it and roll around. When I picked her up from school, she agreed immediately that the knee scooter was vastly superior to crutches.

img_9750Her little brother, of course, found it remarkably unfair that she got something to ride on. “I wanna hurt my foot!” he said. No, you don’t.

Fortunately, my daughter only needed the scooter for about five days. (Which was enough time for my son to take plenty of laps around the downstairs on it.)

She is pretty much back to normal, so it appears we will not have to get an MRI. I’m glad it was just a sprain, as it could have been much worse. She could have warble globbled her framble.

Mike Gibbons was born and raised in Aiken, S.C. A graduate of the University of Alabama, he now lives in Mt. Pleasant. You can e-mail him at scmgibbons@gmail.com or follow him on Twitter @StandardMike.

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He will be missed.

My wife and I are both 44 years old. We have been fortunate to have six wonderful parents in our lives since we first met more than 20 years ago.

Now, we have five.

img_9789My father-in-law, Ron, passed away after a noble and valiant battle with cancer. I will not say that he lost his battle. It was a tie. When he died, the cancer died, too. He fought too hard to be considered a loser in this scrum, and I refuse to give cancer a win. This was his fourth bout with cancer, so you know what? I’m calling Ron the series winner in this. 3-0-1 in my book.

In case you are wondering, we have six parents because my wife’s parents remarried some 30 years ago. But my wife did not get step parents. She always referred to them as bonus parents, because she was fortunate enough to have two new equally awesome people enter her life and love and care for her just as her parents did. And I am fortunate to have been given the gift of four additional parents when we were married.

wedding10Ron Heckman was a great father, a great husband, a great grandfather, and just a great man. The world is a little less great without him here.

We knew he was declining rapidly, and my family went to visit him over Thanksgiving. My wife had been spending much of the previous month in Atlanta with her dad, as she should have. We hoped and prayed for many more Thanksgivings together, but we saw the writing on the wall, and we wanted to ensure the kids were able to spend one last moment with Pop.

He was frail and weak, and it was obvious the toll that was being taken on his body. But the smile that came across his face when his grandkids were there was something cancer could not suppress. They brought him joy that could not be defeated.

wedding22My daughter was his first grandchild, and I am fairly certain that he went to his final resting place knowing the only reason the moon was in the sky was because she hung it there. He loved her singing more than anything, and he used to embarrass her to no end with his love of her voice. Ron never met a stranger in his life, and he could be in line at the grocery store and strike up a conversation with the person next to him. If Allie was there, he would begin telling them what a beautiful singer she was. You don’t know how many times he put her on the spot, asking her to sing in the middle of Kroger for some random stranger. I always chuckled at how proud he was of her, and how he wanted to share it with everyone he met. During his last few weeks, he spent a good amount of time in the hospital. And he played videos of Allie singing to every nurse and doctor who came in the room. Pop had to share his granddaughter’s gift with everyone.

img_9796He loved the fact that my son loved sports, and he loved taking him to ball games. We all went to a Falcons game on my birthday, Oct. 2. In retrospect, it is one of the greatest birthday gifts I have ever had. He loved playing catch with him or watching YouTube clips of awesome sports plays that Parker wanted to show him. He was a diehard Georgia Tech and Georgia State fan, but knew how much Parker loved Alabama football, and would text him or call him during Bama games when something awesome happened for the Tide. I’m not sure how many Bama games he watched 10 years ago, but I know that when his grandson became a diehard fan, glued to every Bama game, so was Pop. The last thing he said to my son, holding his hand tightly, as we were preparing to head back home after Thanksgiving, was, “I love you, boy. Roll Tide.”

wedding21Most of all, he loved his daughter. I am the luckiest man on the planet to have the wife I do, and I remind myself of that every day. And there is now a void in her life that will never be filled. I’ve rehearsed a thousand comforting things to tell my wife, but I know there is nothing I can ever say that will make the pain of her dad no longer being here go away. They were as close as a father and daughter can be. They talked every day. They talked at any hour she needed him. When our daughter was a baby, she decided she would sleep roughly never. As my wife and I were finding out that being parents of a colicky baby was no fun, I remember plenty of nights at 3 or 4 in the morning when she would call her dad. Because she needed him. And he was always there. I would like to say I will fill that void, but the truth is, try as I might, I can never do that. No one can fill Ron’s shoes.

wedding27Ron’s funeral will be held at Eastminster Presbyterian Church, the church where my wife and I were married. On May 2, 1998, he walked his daughter down the aisle, the proverbial “giving away” of his daughter. As my wife and I took our vows, I know he was letting a piece of his daughter away, as dads have to do. I made a promise that day. And I will keep it, Ron. I promise. Rest easy. You’ve earned it. And you won.

Mike Gibbons was born and raised in Aiken, S.C. A graduate of the University of Alabama, he now lives in Mt. Pleasant. You can e-mail him at scmgibbons@gmail.com or follow him on Twitter @StandardMike.